• Stop fighting sugar, alcohol, TV shows, games, weight gain, lack of sleep — and start calmly letting all of that go.

• Stop watching other people “do it all” on autopilot while you drown in endless tasks and procrastination.

• Stop burning yourself in relationships over and over again while others are building happy families and lasting love.

• Stop fighting life head-on and learn to move through it like a river — with ease and without breakdowns.

• Stop drowning in guilt and self-blame that steal joy from every single day.

• Stop feeling like a “squeezed lemon” at the end of every day — when all your energy goes to routine tasks and nothing’s left for what matters or for anything new.

At the same time, you’ll be able to release the pressure and the weight off your soul and bring joy back into your relationships within the first 2–3 months. And the further you go — the better it gets.

• DON’T need to listen to the same clichés about “resource, flow, awareness, waking up at 5, and morning rituals.”

• DON’T need to buy expensive programs on credit or installment plans

• DON’T need to radically change your social circle, move to “Bali for enlightenment,” or join harsh “survival mode” challenges

• DON’T need to watch hours-long livestreams just to pull out 1–2 useful thoughts in 2 hours

• DON’T need long guided meditations that evaporate the moment your neighbor snaps at you in the morning

• DON’T need to unpack your “traumas” with a therapist for $100–$200 a session

I read “soft” psychologists, and absolutely nothing changed in my life, because I kept forgetting what they talked about and forgot to apply it in real situations.

I read books on codependency, but it all ended with me spending 2 years being resentful toward my parents for raising me “wrong.” I read books about alcohol and had no understanding of how or why to quit.

Quantum-esoteric teachings about sliding between reality layers and choosing the version of life you want triggered my first major transformations, and because of that I even managed to move to Bali and Southeast Asia 16 years ago.

But I kept missing something basic, key — foundational.

What I found much later — closer to 38.

Now I can say that I’ve been “on both sides” — in very different situations — and found a successful way out of them. With my love for systems, I built a clear path.

And I can truly understand you. I can understand anyone who is in those situations. I remember them well.

And most importantly — I can show you where to go to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

The first changes began when I was 25. I started reading Carlos Castaneda, Osho, attended live trainings with Joe Vitale (from The Secret) and many others. I learned how to make wishes properly. My first thoughts were about how to sleep 4–5 hours a day and stop automatic reactions in situations.

But even then, I couldn’t understand how to work through the feeling of self-importance according to Castaneda, how to stop inner dialogues and monologues in my head. And now I’ve made huge progress in that. I FOUND all the paths and methods I was searching for!

Later, at 26, I thought there must be planners that use a tree-structured notes system, and I found my favorite organizer — the personal information manager Essential PIM, where for many years I’ve been building my plans and reports, creating projects in any area of life, and doing full brain-dumping. Since then, for 20 years, I’ve kept my plans there — just with a much better system now!

I started keeping journals, doing freewriting, and I did that for 12 years until I “wrote myself out” and switched to other forms of processing everything. A lot of things I began to process automatically. And 80% of what I used to have to write out in a journal — disappeared! It simply doesn’t come up anymore. I worked with the roots of different experiences of resentment, anger, frustration, confusion, and not knowing what to do.

Then for the first time I started to realize that it wasn’t just fun and “that’s just my life,” but alcohol addiction and destruction. That I had a food addiction. That I had workaholism, because of which I missed a lot of interesting events in life. And before that, all of it was completely in a blind spot.

But it was such chaos, such a mess… There were no core pillars, no system, no key life hacks. Everything was falling apart and scattering.

The system I found and the completely new approaches increased my productivity fivefold and multiplied my internal capacity many times over.

And now my Method of Easy Life Changes helps thousands of women and men double their productivity every year, taking them from a “squeezed lemon” into a state where 8–9 hours of sleep becomes the norm, energy grows on its own because unnecessary things are removed and the core is worked through, and where they manage their state (both psychological and physical), their tasks, and their plans wisely.

The main changes began in 2016, when the very first serious situation — divorce with a small child — forced me to look for ways not to get completely overwhelmed by work and to stay more focused and productive.

I had to search for information and learn methods to stay stable inside, to grow beyond myself.

Even when there was despair, terrifying fears, debts and not enough money to live on, when I was completely alone and couldn’t work because my child was 2 years old and I had to walk around holding his hand all day.

After struggling, I decided to “lead” this difficult situation and made a decision to become the best version of myself for my son — I didn’t want him to have a mother in chaos who never has time for him and lives in constant fear and anxiety.

I also wanted to enroll my son in the future into a great school — Green School in Bali — and that became my “Moon” for many years. You know that quote: “Aim for the moon; if you miss, you may hit a star”? That’s when I began to consciously aim at a couple of my Moons. And that really supported me through that and several other crisis moments, and helped me get out of several addictions.

And eventually — it led to me finding and creating a whole system of life hacks over 10 years, the kind almost no one talks about.

Later, around 37, there was a very strange unrequited infatuation and love addiction, and while getting out of it I understood a lot more about myself and about relationships, became even more aware.

And I learned to manage myself and my attention more. The right inner core began to form — the core of personality.

Instead of thoughts and emotions leaking chaotically into “everything is wrong, I’m alone and miserable,” I learned to direct them toward what I already have that is good, and what I want to make even better. The thoughts that leaked into dependency I learned to redirect into the “here and now,” into the zone of influence, into the current life and interesting activities.

And suddenly I understood what it’s like to truly have myself with myself, and how drastically different that is from the lostness, chaos, dependency, and constant worries I used to live in.

Before, I was “like a leaf in the wind.” And then I began to truly become the owner, the author of my life.

Very few people know this, but it’s exactly during stressful, difficult situations — losses, breakups, working through serious dependencies — that we can actually find ourselves within ourselves and change deeply, understand a lot.

And now many women and men have quit alcohol in my field and with my support, using my algorithms, happy that life has become more manageable in many areas.

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I had already fully worked through the food dependency by that time, everything with eating was already fine.

But there were still a few dependencies left. I had “played them out,” the harm became much bigger than before, and it was time to gradually remove those too.

They were alcohol, workaholism, and coffee (3–5 cups a day). All of them fueled each other and kept me stuck in a closed loop.

After overworking, I wanted to drink after a couple of weeks — and a lot. Then I struggled to work, then I caught up and went back into a “work binge” with coffee. And again, it felt like the only way to exhale was alcohol.

This is a common story. By the way, I know a couple of addiction specialists who couldn’t stop their own alcohol relapses because they never worked through their workaholism and emotional immaturity. And I already understood that the root was in that imbalance.

When my son was about 5 (I was 39), I decided it was time for me to quit alcohol. Including to set a great, healthy example for him.

I studied nearly a hundred books and other sources on alcohol and other addictions, took courses, had personal consultations, worked through different methods, and did a lot of work on my mind and emotional immaturity — egocentrism, infantilism — and came into stable sobriety.

I haven’t used alcohol for 6 years now, because life is so much better this way.

These 👆👆👆 are the most common reviews I hear.

• “Before, I spent 3 weeks processing something like this! And now I handled it in 40 minutes!”,

• “Why didn’t I know this earlier?! Why doesn’t anyone talk about this.”

• Or, “In the first month I finally moved forward with what I’d been dreaming about for years!”

Proof in the screenshot.

This is a very common review about the first month of applying my Method.

I never teach anything I haven’t practiced myself for a long time and successfully, anything I’m not fully confident in, where I can choose only the best.

At 39, I began shifting into a new field — into my current direction — exactly when I already started feeling stable and well. I already felt highly effective, everything was already clear and understandable to me, how everything works.

I had already found myself within myself through the chain of events described above. I became sober, cleared my mind. I understood a lot about relationships and maturity, stability and relying on myself. In practice, not just in theory. I had already been running the blog on this topic for about 6 years, but only now was I ready to deliver strong, clear systems and stand behind every word — that everything works exactly like this and these are the best solutions.

It was already easy for me to focus, and I was already many times more productive. And that came just in time — because in a new field and any new business, there is always a lot of work in the first years.

I would not have successfully built my digital academy without all these changes, and specifically without quitting alcohol, because you need a completely different mind for this, and different work capacity — with THIS amount of work with people on complex psychological topics.

Just in the first year, I checked more than 3,500 homework submissions with detailed responses, answered everyone in private messages, hundreds of 1 to 1 consultations, launched major courses in the very first year, posted daily, wrote articles, and completed many other projects and tasks that used to be simply impossible for me.

Later, I was able to optimize my work to work less while doing even more of what matters.

I will share the main secrets below.

Everything I found over 20 years of searching saved me — and others who studied my lessons — 20+ hours a week that used to be spent on procrastination, self-doubt (“I’m worse than everyone,” “everything is scary and awful”), or sleepless nights (the “cost” of 1 hour of burnout is 2–3 hours of lost productivity, not counting coffee/wine binges, energy leaks from the “wrong” mode, and the effort spent “fighting exhaustion”).

And it brought them into a completely new life.

All these events one after another — divorce, getting out of different dependencies, working on my workaholism, health, with the RIGHT THEORY — gave me the opportunity to grow many times over.

All the great but scattered life hacks wove together into a clear system. My productivity, energy, and mood became manageable. Everything became clear and understandable at any moment, even when things were hard, when there were crashes or emergencies.

Now I not only knew my Power time of day, I knew how to protect it, amplify it, and stretch it. By the way, most of the life hacks about Power time I developed myself through many years of research — on myself and on other people.

My desires became “right on the surface.” I know myself well and fully accept myself. Power grew.

My digital academy is growing, I’m slowly entering the international market as well. I have a huge number of plans for new books, courses, planners, products, and posts.

My relationships with everyone came into harmony, I stopped arguing in chats. With my son — idyll, with my ex-husband — good, even, respectful relations, and with a new bf everything is exactly how I always dreamed.

Life feels colorful, beautiful, and pleasant every single day. Even despite all its difficulties.

I actually have at least 3 more books sitting in drafts, and ideas for another 10–20 books — I just haven’t written them yet.

And only after understanding many things as a clear system (not just a bunch of scattered life hacks), I wrote the book “NOT GIVEN ENOUGH: How to Stop Draining Your Life with Endless Dissatisfaction and Become a Happy Person”

It is dedicated to only one of my 3 key approaches to working with life.

The book was received very well, quickly became a bestseller.

It’s easy with my son. He has almost no extremes or swings. He’s stable, grounded, and I love how he manages himself and can bring himself back to normal quickly, calm himself down when things don’t go his way.

I love how he finds activities he genuinely enjoys, how he doesn’t agree to things he doesn’t want, how he isn’t dependent on people’s approval, and how kind he is to both people and animals.

He speaks English well and easily connects with others, makes friends quickly.

And most importantly, I love that since around age 6–7 he’s been great at holding boundaries with people and situations, leaning on himself, and staying resilient — he doesn’t “Don’t count your chickens before they hatch,” and he’s prepared for things to go differently than he expects. For example, even during the “terrible threes,” he never once had a store meltdown demanding I buy something.

He takes after his mom — but the version of mom I became through years of work. He’s simply absorbing my best discoveries and practices.

I work with my son the same way.

Using the same 3 keys (see below), the same Happiness Formula, the same best techniques.

• I lead by example — in my thinking, in how I work with the core areas of life (work, finances, health, relationships, and so on), in how I respect people, in how I hold boundaries and stay rooted in myself, in my ability to notice the good and stay in acceptance.

• I teach him through words and theory (because I actually know the details and can explain them).

• I monitor what’s happening with him here and there. The two things that matter most to me are his level of happiness and his health. The rest will follow.

• I simply live the way I teach — in relation to him. I see his needs, respect that he has his own life, and long ago stopped yelling. I listen. I see him as a separate human being. For a long time I worked on my “Magic Mom” approach — noticing and meeting a person’s most important needs and requests — and after that, our relationship became even warmer. Because of this, I’m an authority for him; we have a strong connection; he loves and respects me, listens, doesn’t brush me off, tries to meet my needs, and respects my resources — time, money, and energy (the same way I respect his).

The same goes for the other women and men who learn from me — they apply all of this to their families too, and pass it on.

I didn’t end up sending him to the Green School in Bali because I changed my mind about moving there. But here in Vietnam he has spent these years in excellent kindergartens and schools — and I could afford it. Not that expensive, but still. Because once, instead of sinking into despair, I aimed for the Moon.

Personally, I see his level of happiness, self-awareness, and independence as quite high.

Now I’m working on expanding my freedom so I can travel not only around SEA, but to other parts of the world as well. Again, following my own system.

And most importantly, even after the divorce, I really didn't want to leave Asia.

I adore SOUTHEAST ASIA — it’s home for me. I lived and traveled across many countries: the Philippines, Indonesia (Bali and other islands), Malaysia, Cambodia, Nepal, Thailand, Vietnam, Hong Kong, Singapore. I arrived here 16 years ago to my ex-husband. I got married here, gave birth to my son in Bali. Six years traveling, ten years in Vietnam.

I love everything here — the sun, life by the ocean, a motorbike and wind in my face, freedom, food, people.

And even when I wished for a new relationship, I asked for a man who would also want to live here.

After the divorce, it was very hard being alone with a small child, no money, and debts. But it was precisely thanks to many techniques and principles from my Method that I stayed, held on here, and managed. I know many people who couldn’t.

In many ways I was lucky, but it still happened because I dug deep and searched for how to be more effective, happier, more productive — how to shape the experiences I wanted even in difficult situations.

Absolutely every day I get messages in my DMs and group chats — gratitude, sometimes from ten people a day.

People often say that I explained what used to be completely unclear, and what other specialists could never help them with.

And one of the main questions is — why isn’t all this common knowledge?

I’m honestly shocked myself: why aren’t such basic things widely known yet? Why doesn’t anyone talk about them constantly? Why is no one using an integrative approach like I do? Why did I have to invent so much on my own? Like the concept that procrastination comes from pressure — and how to quickly and simply release that pressure? And so much more. Why??

I don’t know… I don’t have an answer. I’m just grateful that over 20 years I dug deep and wove all of this into a clear system — my Method.

People started joining my courses more and more often, recommending them to others. Now it’s thousands of people every year writing to me about how radically their lives have changed — and how they could never "unsee" it back.

• I’ve checked many thousands of assignments in total,
• commented on over 15,000 situations,
• and held at least 500 calls over the years.

Together with participants, I refined the system and made it more universal for any person — that’s my goal.

I began receiving feedback like this:

• about more stability and 2–3x better mood, almost like mine — almost 365 days a year without breakdowns
• about husbands suddenly bringing flowers or planning trips because the relationship became warmer than in youth
• about more energy in autumn, when they used to sink into seasonal blues (from “I can’t get up” to “I get things done with joy”)
• about turning chaos with kids into calm structures where everyone feels good
• about relationships with a mother-in-law suddenly healing — she starts caring instead of criticizing
• about ending alcohol and other dependencies, where a person suddenly gains a clean life with self-respect and clarity
• about stopping emotional blow-ups at loved ones — and now the family “doesn’t recognize this new mom/wife”
• about long-held resentment (15+ years) suddenly dissolving
• about finally having time for morning workouts and evening beauty rituals — and no idea why it never worked before
• about books getting published after years of dreaming
• about new jobs with 2x or 3x higher income
• about a relationship rekindling after a breakup — but now on a higher level
• about finally starting a blog after years of fear
• about losing 17 or 12 kg in six months — easily and with pleasure
• about feeling peace when coming home to the same apartment in November — and suddenly life feels “mine”
• about ending energy leaks from mental loops, toxic patterns, and endless emotional processing
• about going from “constantly dissatisfied” to “actually a pretty balanced woman”
• about discovering procrastination everywhere — then almost fully eliminating it, gaining 5+ hours a day while doing tasks 2–3x faster
• about getting back a 37-year-old body at 48
• about finally allowing oneself to pursue a dream job, even if it seems “not serious for a grown man”
• about expanding a business and team 3x, and income nearly 9x
• about almost completely stopping inner mental chatter and worries about forgetting things
• about restoring a healthy sleep schedule after 15 years of insomnia — and waking up charged every day

I could list these forever :)

Because my desire and mission is for as many children in this world as possible to grow up happy — with conscious and happy parents.

I’m not interested in working for a lot of money with just one person. I hardly do personal consultations anymore. What inspires me is when thousands of people transform at once.

Do you remember the parable about the single hammer strike?

A giant ship engine failed. The ship’s owners tried one expert after another, but none of them could figure out how to fix the engine.

Then they brought in an old man who had been fixing ships since he was young. He carried a large bag of tools with him, walked around the engine, listened, put his hand on different parts, and finally took out a small hammer. He gently tapped one small valve — and instantly the engine came back to life.

A week later the owners received a bill for $10,000.

“What?!” the owners exclaimed. “You hardly did anything!”

So the old mechanic sent them an itemized bill:

Tapping with a hammer — $1.00 Knowing where to tap — $9,999.00

Same with me. Most people don’t know what to change. I, however, spent years figuring it out — and now I clearly show where to strike.

I’m not interested in hitting random spots for years anymore. That’s why I found all the “bottlenecks” for fast change.

And I share them with everyone in the form of clear instructions — as cheaply as possible.

I’ve had this trait since childhood — not only to explore and dig deep, but also to systematize everything and break it down into components.

All my life I wanted someone to give me clear, step-by-step instructions based on my needs.

But I never found that. I only found scattered fragments and fragments of fragments.

So I created my own algorithms and instructions for more than a hundred cases and situations.

And now I share them in that form with anyone who wants them. Exactly the way I always wished someone would share them with me.

Here are some of my core principles and life-hacks I’ve already shared with you:

• Always get enough sleep and wake up without an alarm (so your “battery,” including your prefrontal cortex, is fully charged)

• A pleasant, calm morning just for yourself

• Knowing your Power Time of day and using it correctly

• Three rest blocks so work feels different — energized and interesting

• Minimum Base 1 and 2

• Don’t mix focus work with buffer work (important and difficult tasks shouldn’t get tangled with admin and low-value tasks)

• “Magic pauses,” during which beauty, health, cleaning, and eye rest happen naturally

• Making every single decision consciously

• Comfortable, enjoyable planning and daily reporting; pyramid-structured plans so the most important things don’t slip away

• Happiness hormones — saturating my whole day with them, morning to evening

• Customizing everything to myself — volumes, formats, processes, environment, people; I go “to my goals through MY doors” (my means, tools, paths)

• Working with pressure — releasing most of it on the go, and sometimes intentionally

• Legalizing “cheap dopamine” so it’s no longer an enemy but a partner

• Attaching “cheap dopamine” to actions to stay engaged and go longer

• Skillful work with habits

• Anti-procrastination — a whole system, including pressure work

• Three daily essentials: One Main Thing, Something New, and Something Helpful

• And many other small things.

And then there are even more fascinating techniques that give inner calm and stability while I’m doing all this and living through my day.

• I know exactly what I do, why I do it, and in what order.

• Who I am, what I’m about, what interests me, what fills me up — and what drains me and simply isn’t mine.

• I know what I want and where I’m going — I walk to my goal through my doors.

And I gradually build all of this into my life. I keep tuning everything until it becomes: “I adore my life — my morning, my day, my evening, my night.”

Every day I’m in a good mood, even when life is full of stress and force majeures.

My day is filled with “happiness hormones,” and the stress and pressure hormones are minimized — I constantly work on this, add what I need, remove what I don’t.

• That’s why every morning I wake up in a good state and good mood, excited about the new day, no matter when I wake up or what awaits me.

• I give myself 20–30 minutes for social media I genuinely enjoy (that’s what I want right now; jumping straight out of bed stopped being fun as I got older). A pleasant, calm morning removes the inner race and gives me the feeling: “Everything is allowed. I’m the owner of my life and my day.”

• I take a long shower — about an hour — and do beauty rituals, at least something minimal: a mask, a facial device, body and hair care.

• I have breakfast and chat with my man.

• Then I sit at the computer and design my day in EssentialPIM. I make a plan based on a mix of “what I genuinely want” and “what must be done.” My yesterday review and today’s plan are my little joy. I see how much I completed yesterday, that I’m moving in the right direction, how much interesting and new is ahead. And I design a precise plan that’s easy to follow through the whole day. Here I make decisions and check resources in advance. I define the essentials — Minimal Base 1 and 2.

• I quickly reply to all my chats — another little joy, because the format, the volume, the number of chats — everything is tuned, manageable, and enjoyable.

• I work actively during my Power Time — focused, no distractions, following clear plans. I simply walk through what I intended, supporting my brain — which is why during this block I get more done than I used to in an entire day. Usually in my Power Time, when my prefrontal cortex is naturally at its peak, I do the hardest and most important tasks.

• I take a lunch break that feels good for me. Sometimes 15 minutes, sometimes a couple of hours — depending on how much I worked and how tired I am.

• Refreshed, I start the second big work block — finishing a batch of simpler tasks, cleaning up loose ends (I’m used to living without them) and doing it all under a show (the kind that helps rather than distracts). I group similar tasks together; everything is out of my head and into the system, so I don’t have to remember anything. If loose ends aren’t bothering me, I can move on to doing more important tasks again.

• I haven’t had real procrastination in a long time. Once in a while, if I’m tired or under pressure, I catch it quickly and deal with it. “Cheap dopamine” is legalized and put into reasonable limits — I know I can always have it, so I don’t crave it while working. And I don’t even want much of it — especially formats like YouTube or TikTok that drain me. And since I can have it anytime later, I don’t feel pulled away during work. Plus, I know how to work with pressure — the root of procrastination — break it down, release it, make decisions, and simply do things even when they’re hard, scary, unclear, or too big.

• I know my Minimum Base for everything — for each task and for the day as a whole. I do the main thing — great! Usually I also want to do more, so I do Minimum Base 2 and then more tasks. I feel like a hero, fully satisfied with my day — because I finish exactly what I wanted to see done, not what gets endlessly postponed.

• That’s why I have a minimum of “consequences of unfinished things” — almost none. No suffering from deadlines; I handle them way in advance. I live “a month ahead” in expenses and tasks. At my age I like living clean, free, and transparent. Even (!) when there’s a lot of work — I manage it, not the other way around.

• I eat food I love and don’t gain weight — everything is tuned and balanced. I drink beverages I enjoy (I tested about 40 teas and cocoas before choosing the ones I want daily).

• I do workouts (almost every day) — whatever fits: short breaks or longer sessions. My body feels loosened, warmed up, happy.

• Every day I do 3 things: 1) The main task of the day, 2) Something new (usually a lot), 3) Something helpful for someone.

• In between work — during my “Magic Pauses” — I do beauty devices, treatments, green smoothies, sprouted wheat, take out or put in meltwater, supplements, healthy snacks, mini workouts and massages, time with my son, cleaning, decluttering, laundry, etc. As a result, tasks in these areas never pile up into pressure. No “perfect or nothing,” no “all or nothing.” All the important things quietly get done “as if by magic.” And with age, I simply can’t do long workouts or long cleaning or long beauty routines anymore — but mini and micro portions work beautifully. There’s a Minimum Base for everything here too.

• I use Zigzags and Mini-Portions (even micro-portions) daily — my inventions for overloaded people who can’t do long stretches of the things they want, and instead move in “short sprints,” igniting some “burners” and turning down others.

If I worked a regular job, I’d apply the exact same principles. They’d help me free several hours a day, get a lot done — the truly important things — while still resting and getting proper sleep.

This is only a small part of the mistakes — but they’re the main ones.

Sis… I know this exhaustion so well. I’ve been there too.

And I found a way out of every single situation. I know how to balance all of this. I know where to go and what to do so things actually get BETTER, not worse.

Come with me — and that waterfall of problems will slowly turn into a river of freedom. Are you ready? 💪❤️

Why does your life feel like an endless downpour of problems — and how do you stop it for good? 💔🌧️

Picture this: you’re 35–45, technically full of energy, yet every day feels like running under a waterfall of problems — stress at work, fights at home, and this constant “why can’t I just relax?”

You reach for anything that might help — therapy, books, motivational courses. And what do they do? They just pile on more “tools,” more pressure, more advice: “Do more! Be perfect!”

And you burn out even more, because no one ever showed you this: you keep fighting the consequences endlessly, but you never touch the root. It’s like cutting off the heads of Medusa — exhausting yourself, while two new ones grow back. Everything spreads… This is MISTAKE #1.

All of this happens instead of fixing the system upstream — the very mechanism that keeps producing endless problems.

Your energy and your prefrontal cortex resources keep shrinking. Problems usually grow with age (same with health). And the strength to keep chopping off heads simply isn’t there anymore.

It’s a trap — and EVERYONE falls into it.

I always work with the root — the cause of resentment, relationship dissatisfaction, exhaustion, low productivity, procrastination, all of it. I make it so these problems stop appearing in the first place.

Because endlessly “handling consequences” is IMPOSSIBLE.

MISTAKE #2. People constantly step into the area “Outside the Zone of Influence.” They pull themselves apart there — trying to solve what cannot be solved. Wanting it anyway. And suffering because of it.

• You cannot quickly lose 15 kg.
• You cannot bring a drowned phone back to life.
• You cannot go back to the past and behave differently with someone you loved.
• You cannot change your neighbors’ personalities after they flooded your apartment.

It's outside the zone of influence!

And people stay stuck there in thoughts — angry, replaying “If only… How unfair… It should’ve been different! How dare they!”

These emotions drain them. And from that scattered state, leaking energy outside their influence, they live their days — in a bad mood, doing the wrong things, or doing nothing at all.

They also try to do everything at once — which is also usually outside their influence and unrealistic. They try dieting, exercising, reading, meditating… all at the same time. Pressure becomes too high, causes resistance, and after four days they quit.

Meanwhile the real zone of influence is ignored — too small, too simple, too boring. Over time, the zone of influence shrinks. Energy, motivation, and self-belief disappear.

My first filter for ANY event is: Is it in my zone of influence or not?

MISTAKE #3. Instead of clearing pressure, people pile more on themselves — both external and internal.

They get angry at themselves, blame themselves, scold themselves, don’t believe in themselves, and expect perfect performance.

Under this combined pressure, they can’t do anything.

And no one knows that PROCRASTINATION (when you don’t do what you need to do) comes from PRESSURE. I discovered this key truth and built an entire system around pressure release.

Emotionally, too — instead of reducing the importance of problems, people dramatize them, exaggerate them, inflate them. They pile more on top instead of clearing it out.

MISTAKE #4. People don’t sleep enough and deprive themselves of both physical energy and prefrontal cortex power — thinking they’re “saving time.”

There’s a hidden glitch here. It feels like you’re saving time.

But no — you can only “save” sleep once in a while, when you gather all your energy and live a super-productive day with two extra hours.

But after such a day always comes a RECOIL — which no one ever anticipates or plans for.

Tomorrow you’re sleep-deprived again + the recoil from yesterday = a wasted, useless day.

You’d have been better off sleeping!

MISTAKE #5. People avoid the real core tasks — the ones they fear.

They hide from: debts, overdue tasks, financial problems, health issues, exhaustion, strained relationships, weak work performance.

These things cause the most anxiety, energy leaks, pressure, and procrastination. They also create entire waterfalls of additional problems.

And then people bury all of it under “cheap dopamine”: TV shows, sweets, alcohol, social media, chats. Pretending everything is fine.

But cheap dopamine creates ADDITIONAL problems — and the snowball grows faster and faster. Everything gets worse.

MISTAKE #6. At 40, people try to force themselves to do what they did at 30 — strict diets, all-day work, intense workouts, sleeping 7 hours, pushing their career forward.

They don’t realize that with age the whole system shifts — motivation, values, capabilities, desires.

You want more “I want” and less “I must.”

Systems built on pressure collapse quickly.

You crave simple, real joys — not endless running.

Life slows down; “whatever, this is fine” appears; the prefrontal cortex can no longer force you to run like a hamster and do everything perfectly.

The internal “forcing mechanism” breaks. The levers disappear.

The floor feels like it’s falling out from under your feet. “How do I live if I can’t force myself to do things anymore?”

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Because after 35–45 a lot of things change — but very few people realize it.

I call this phenomenon “Age Inertia.”

Everyone genuinely thinks: “Something broke only in me. Everyone else is fine. Everyone else is energized, motivated, moving forward… and I’m the only one who’s tired, unfocused, unmotivated, confused. My situation is weird.”

But it’s not weird. It’s universal.

Even people at 25–30 experience this. And for those 35–45 — it’s literally everyone. Most people just don’t notice or don’t reflect on it.

• “I can’t stay focused at work anymore. I get scattered between tasks and social media.”
• “I can’t force myself if I don’t want to. Can’t stop eating sweets. Every day I say ‘tomorrow,’ but I still eat chocolate and my weight goes up.”
• “I can’t do long workouts like before. Everything feels like too much.”
• “I’ve been unable to declutter for 3 years.”
• “I buy a new planner and drop it almost immediately.”
• “I sit down to work in the morning and actually start only by lunchtime.”

And so on.

And this is NORMAL.

Yes, all these changes are real. Your values shift. Your desires shift. Your speed slows down. Your inner “pusher” and “achiever” break down. Your system rewires itself. Everyone goes through it — for many, even stronger.

And that’s exactly why at this age, more than ever, we need maximum efficiency inside the abilities we still have — and the new limitations we’ve developed.

That’s why the OLD METHODS don’t work anymore.

You need NEW METHODS.

And that’s exactly what I created.

Most authors don’t see this at all. They pressure people with complicated structures, heavy routines, and “do everything at once” strategies — as if readers still had the energy and capacity of a 25-year-old.

Many authors themselves operate from a completely different level of resources, freedom, and well-developed systems in Work, Finances, and Health — nothing like the people they are teaching.

But I see what’s actually happening with age and in today’s overloaded world. I see how overstretched everyone is. And I see how different people’s capacities really are.

And my Method works for ANY person, in ANY of these states.

Because it contains the most powerful Game-Changers and the most important principles no one talks about.

As a result, we end up with things like this:

• Scattered techniques, tiny fragments of helpful methods that never form a complete, coherent picture. It’s like a flashlight that lights up only one spot while everything around is dark — and you keep feeling your way through life blindly.

• Techniques that fly out of your head instantly because they’re not truly relevant, don’t actually change your situation, and aren’t universal enough. Your brain forgets them easily — they’re bulky yet unimportant.

• Techniques that change very little because they target consequences, not the root causes of problems, pressure, and stress.

• Deep “trauma digging” that only convinces you that you’re endlessly broken, full of wrong layers, underloved, under-nurtured (unlike supposedly “everyone else”). And everyone around you is also broken, and your trauma constantly clashes with theirs — what a complicated life.

• Following someone else’s standards and goals, someone else’s formats, volumes, tendencies — instead of understanding what you actually want.

• You manage to fix one area, but everything collapses somewhere else.

• You wander “between three pines,” unable to find answers to your many, many questions.

No. I offer a completely different, NEW approach. Fast, concise, clear, focused on what matters most. An approach that removes root causes, not just symptoms. Practical, lightweight, effective.

• Some authors build everything solely on how the brain works.
• Some focus only on psychology and long trauma processing.
• Some rely on sports and health.
• Some teach only time-management.

But no one gives a complete, integrative approach.

What’s the point of understanding your brain and “happiness hormone receptors,” if your psyche keeps throwing you onto swings of

“I’m small and helpless” → “I’m powerful and smarter than everyone,”

and you’re constantly rescuing everyone at the cost of your sleep and your life?

Neurobiology gives very poor explanations for how to actually fix the psyche.

What’s the point of having money and good health if your relationships are full of fights and you’re not loved — just used?

What’s the point of succeeding at work and following your daily plans if you regularly binge unhealthy food at night, stay angry, and drink wine alone in the evenings, promising yourself for years that “tomorrow I’ll stop”?

I’ve often seen coaches and psychologists who forget their own advice and don’t follow it in their real lives.

Who fall apart emotionally — sometimes for months or even years — and can’t “pull themselves together.”

Those who teach others to heal resentment but can’t let go of their own.

Those who act overly important and can’t understand why their love life keeps falling apart.

Those who get upset when things don’t go according to plan and have no idea how to take life more lightly and with acceptance.

Those who fight their reality, don’t respect their loved ones, and try to “fix” them — while their loved ones “fix” them right back. And so on.

With me, it’s different.

If I don’t know how to do something — I simply don’t teach it.

My life has become easy and enjoyable. I’ve gradually tuned everything to fit me, and I keep tuning it further. And I know exactly which skills I developed to make that possible. I see clearly how I could’ve gone through this journey 20–30 times faster — and that’s what I’m giving you.

🔑 KEY 1: Life Management (a conscious upgrade of everything) — plans that light you up inside, a planning system that finally feels like comfortable shoes instead of something complicated and unpleasant. We fix health basics — sleep, rest, nutrition, movement, what’s “off.” Habits on autopilot, productivity without burnout, cleaning up “holes” in health, finances, work, relationships, and other major areas. We fine-tune your day until it becomes “I adore my day, period.” Energy rises, procrastination waves goodbye and disappears!

🔑 KEY 2: Inner Personality Settings — we become more mature, happier people: less drama, less “excuses and avoidance,” more self-support, gratitude, and “wow, this feels amazing!” Instead of adding new pressure on yourself — we clear it away. Problems turn into tasks; they stop being tragedies and become opportunities. Blame stops mattering. Relationships with important people improve right before your eyes. Life becomes softer, more pleasant, more interesting. I’ll explain why inner harmony is so rare in our overloaded world — and what exactly to do about it.

🔑 KEY 3: Clearing Dependencies — we remove “anchors” and everything that drains you. We pull things out of your BLIND SPOT.

This means exhausting workaholism, social media loops, attachment to people, alcohol, sweets, love addiction, coffee marathons, emotional spirals, and more. We remove them not harshly, but intelligently. You don’t even need to give up all “cheap dopamine”! Social media, games, coffee — you can keep them, but used correctly. No destruction, no chaos. Just freedom and clarity — like a breath of fresh air. Pressure fades even more, and without pressure life becomes so much easier.

2) We learn how to "process" everything correctly — and the world becomes vivid again!

We apply super-filters: any situation (a fight, a deadline, “why do I feel bad?”) becomes clear, manageable, and full of possibilities.

We bring order to your mind and life: anything “important” becomes a project, we separate the essential, and action becomes easy (my techniques work fast and simply). Joy inside comes instantly — and daily life becomes lighter and lighter, like a snowball rolling in reverse.

Imagine: a morning without stress, an evening with “I actually did it!”

3) We add the best techniques — your “magic pill” for aligning your whole life!

Everyone wants “quick and easy” — and here it is.

My top techniques (awareness, emotional maturity, anti-dependency tools) act like a system upgrade: you apply them step by step and see shifts immediately. No suffering, no “I’ll start tomorrow.”

Your health improves, money flows, relationships bloom — and you feel: “Finally, I actually love living as myself!”

This isn’t a survival marathon — it’s your ticket into a lighter, happier life.

Want to dive in and feel the “waterfall” of changes already in the first week?

People sometimes write to me: “Anna, please don’t ever stop releasing your lessons, they’re like a drug for me.”

Even seasoned coaches and big business owners find things in my work they’ve never seen anywhere else..

What is my Method of easy life changes made of?

Imagine this: instead of endless “I have to force myself” and the chaos where problems multiply like a snowball — you get a simple system that starts working on autopilot.

In weeks, not years.

Minimum effort — maximum freedom, joy, and that “wow, this is finally my life!” feeling.

This isn’t theory from books. It’s my tested “3 Keys Method” — the way I live myself and the way I’ve helped thousands of women and men move from burnout into a clear, productive, authentic life.

And honestly, I still don’t know a single other specialist who works on all three components at once. That’s why people leave psychologists and coaches with so many unanswered questions.

1) We launch the 3 Keys — and life lifts off immediately. (That’s why you saw such powerful reviews earlier — people’s lives shift LITERALLY in 1–2–3 months.)

We don’t dig through symptoms and tiny details — we go straight to the root that creates the waterfalls of problems. We highlight what’s hurting you right now and what needs urgent repair. Everyone has all three “keys” out of balance (some more, some less), but once they’re aligned — you get harmony with yourself, with people, with the world, and with life as a whole.

Minus the sleep deprivation, the “I’m exhausted,” the chronic fatigue

Minus the chaos and mess — in your mind, your soul, your home, your plans, your tasks, your life

Minus procrastination and the eternal “I’ll do it later”

Minus agonizing burning deadlines

Minus anxiety and fear, the guilt, the self-doubt

Minus the torment of overthinking, “what do people think of me,” “I’m not like others”

Minus the destructive effects and problems caused by dependencies

Minus an overheated prefrontal cortex

Plus a 2× boost in productivity in just the first 1–2 months

A huge plus from introducing your Power Time of day

Plus time to take care of yourself

Plus time for your kids, your partner, nature, hobbies, learning

Plus strength and awareness

Plus clarity and focus

Plus a good mood, self-belief, and healthy enthusiasm

Plus understanding why you do what you do — in your life and specifically today

So what do we get?

Will you be able to live better this way? I think yes. Just like the thousands of people who have already implemented my system. And that’s exactly why I have so many positive — even ecstatic — reviews.

You literally “copy and paste” it into your life. Done.

When everything gets mixed together — fatigue, anxiety, a hundred tasks, and a buzzing head — most people do the same thing: they push themselves harder and pile on NEW tasks, trying to “organize” themselves even more.

Lists, trackers, habits… But inside — still chaos, exhaustion, and no energy.

I offer a different path.

• Not to fight the chaos, but to unwind it thread by thread.
• Not to “discipline yourself,” but to find inner support and, most importantly, your minimal base — the MAIN thing.
• Not to crush yourself with pressure, but to let yourself breathe and learn how to engage in the right actions with interest and pleasure.

Even true “self-support” isn’t about doing everything perfectly. It’s when even in pajamas, with no plans, you don’t shame yourself — and you still feel absolutely okay. Because you know when and why you’ll take your next steps.